Fences in our sexuality protect our future.
It can be difficult to discuss sex with parents,
peers and maybe in church. Our culture took
something designed by God to be shared
between husband and wife and made it
disposable, purely physical and commonplace.
Sexual imagery is everywhere from movies
video games and social media and the
"no strings attached" attitude belittles the
good creation of the relationship God intended
of sex in marriage.
Paul writes to the church in Corinth to "flee"
sexual immorality. Not to ignore it, look the
other way or strongly think about resisting,
but to run the other direction. Paul understood
the culture in Corinth, and it speaks to
attitudes we are surrounded by every day.
But why such a strong, active verb like "flee?"
Sin, in it's simplest definition is hurting
another person, putting yourself before others to
their detriment. Because God loves each
one of us, we don't get to hurt anyone.
God isn't against sex because it is sin, he made
it an exclusive gift between you and your future
spouse after marriage, he is against anything
outside of this definition because it hurts
not just the other person but hurts you. This
is what makes sexual sin unique. God
understands the hurt and pain sharing this
type of relationship outside of his design
causes. He doesn't want that for any of us.
He doesn't want us to carry the physical or
emotional pain it causes into our futures.
He proved this when Jesus died for
each and every one of our sins. We are
"bought for a price" (1 Corinth 6:20),
we are valued. When we know our worth,
our value, we tend to honor that more.
We treat relationships differently and protect
ourselves and others in the process.
This isn't just Paul telling them
(and us) to run away from fun and what
feels good. It's about protecting our future
relationships from the consequences of sexual
sin. The consequences of which are unique,
never fully going away, often
forcing people into keeping secrets.
By seeing ourselves the way God sees us and
others, we are in a unique position to love and
care for our relationships the way he does.
This might be a difficult topic to discuss with
your parents and you may be surprised to
know it might be for them too.
It is important to understand that God created
sex as an amazing gift to be enjoyed inside
of marriage, so fences are important to protect
our future selves & future relationships.
Read the following passages and discuss with
your parents the different ways fences in
sexuality can protect "future you."