Walk with the wise and become wise, associate with fools and get in trouble. Proverbs 13:20
King Solomon, David's son, is credited with writing the book of Proverbs. He was considered by many to be the wisest person to ever live. In fact, when told by God that he could ask for anything, he asked for wisdom, or discernment (2 Chronicles 1) This proverb doesn't just say that close relationships, with fools or people who make bad decision, is unwise. It says it will lead to trouble. This is why we need fences in our friendships too. We need to carefully decide who our influencr friends are, the ones we spend a lot of time with, seek advice from and share our lives with closely. Their direction in life will influence our direction in life.
It's important to remember that we should treat everyone with the same kindness and try to show everyone what it is to be a good friend. When we protect ourselves with a "fence" around close friendships, it is not to judge other people harshly, it is to protect our selves from trouble, danger and ruin.
Read through the follower verses. If you ever find yourself acting differently to please someone else, or making decisions you otherwise wouldn't to fit in, you may want to consider who you allow into your "close" friend fence. Healthy friendships never have to fake anything.
If after today, you consider the relationships you have with friends and determine there may be someone who no longer should be a close friend speak to your parent or other trusted adult about what to do about the situation. Other people shouldn't be treated harshly for their decisions but it should be clear to them that it isn't a path you are willing to follow.
Read through the following verses. Share with a trusted adult what you think the verses say about the type of fence to build when it comes to friendship. What are some differences between wise and "foolish" friends?