Fences in our marriage can protect our hearts from ruin
Marriage may not be something you ever thought about or maybe it is a distant thought somewhere when you think about adulthood. But whether you've dreamed about your future spouse and wedding day or not, marriage is something everyone can honor.
When we place something in a position of honor, it means we value and treasure it. So when we build a strong fence around our ideas of what marriage is even before we are married, we can honor other peoples marriages and our future spouse. And it we will be able to build on that foundation in our own relationships in the future.
In his letter to the church in Ephasus, Paul builds a parallel to Jesus and his relationship with his church, his followers, and a Christ-centered marriage. Jesus was willing to sacrifice his life for everyone and Paul tells us this is the basis of a strong marriage fence. When wives put their husband first, the husband is placed in position to care and love for her the way Jesus loves us. And when husbands lovingly care for their wives well-being, he is sacrificing in the way Jesus did for all of us. It is a self-sacrificial, unconditional love, the same way Jesus loves.
Before and after marriage there are things we can do to build a strong fence. Placing marriage, whether it is our own or not is a definite start and remembering that when two people marry they become one and should foster a closer relationship with each other than with even their parents or friends. Talk with your parents or other trusted, married adults. What are some positive things we all can do to set marriage apart, to give it the place of honor it deserves?
Thankfully, God's word has many positive things to guide us even in the area of marriage. Check out the following passages this week as you discuss and think about marriage.
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to
one another in marriage.
God will surely judge people who are immoral
and those who commit adultery.
This explains why a man leaves
his father and mother and is joined
to his wife, and the two are united into one.
And further, submit to one another
out of reverence for Christ.
For wives, this means submit to your
husbands as to the Lord.
For a husband is the head of his
wife as Christ is the head of the church.
He is the Savior of his body, the church.
As the church submits to Christ,
so you wives should submit to your
husbands in everything.
For husbands, this means love your wives,
just as Christ loved the church. He gave up
his life for her to make her holy and clean,
washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He
did this to present her to himself as a
glorious church without a spot or
wrinkle or any other blemish.
Instead, she will be holy and without fault.
In the same way, husbands ought to love
their wives as they love their own bodies.
For a man who loves his wife actually
shows love for himself. No one hates his
own body but feeds and cares for it, just as
Christ cares for the church.
As the Scriptures say, “A man
leaves his father and mother and
is joined to his wife,
and the two are united into one.”
And we are members of his body.
This is a great mystery, but it is an
illustration of the way Christ and the
church are one. So again I say,
each man must love his wife as he
loves himself, and the
wife must respect her husband.